Alegria Feature


January 08, 2019

Change: Change is almost always inevitable, yet can be very difficult to handle. It is very easy to stay in our comfort zone because that’s all we know. Fear often holds us back from making changes in our life because we do not know what the other side of fear looks like. However, after all the adversities that I have been through, instead of pushing away from change, I now lean toward it. I have learned to embrace change and have seen how rewarding true change can be. Change has made me more resilient by changing my way of thinking, maintaining healthy relationships, managing my emotions, and building on my strengths. We all are more resilient than we think. 

Looking forward to: Knowing that this is the beginning of creating the rest of my life is so motivating. Jim Rohn says “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. and guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” Writing my goals as really been a huge part of me accomplishing them. My vision does not always look exactly like I envisioned but at least it’s headed in the right direction. Remember not to limit yourself, if you are passionate about something, follow that and watch what will happen. A pilot never flies without a flight plan, an architect doesn’t design without a blueprint, yet many of us live life without a plan. 

Giving back: Giving back is a huge part of my life. Being of service truly fuels my soul. We all have gifts that we are given and learning what yours is can help you find your passion. Being passionate about creating a difference for domestic violence and sexual abuse survivors have led me to become an advocate for them. Bold Ascension is my way of giving back to everyone one who has helped lift me up. I did not get to where I am by myself, I’ve had wonderful women role models who have been there for me when I needed them most. This is my gift to the world.

ALEGRIA: Alegria to me means God, family, and love. Without any of those three components, I would not be complete. God has fulfilled my life in ways that nothing or no one ever has. He has been by my side through all my adversities and has given me the strength to keep going, especially at my darkest. Following him and surrendering my life to him has made everything else in my life a joy. My family is my reason for living and why I continue to fight so hard for change. Leaving a world in where my children can live in harmony is the ultimate dream. Love has allowed me to feel connected to the world and empathetic to others. But it wasn’t until I was able to love myself that I was able to attract that into my life. 

Latina: If I was given the opportunity to choose my culture, I would still choose to be a Latina. I love everything about this culture. The strength, resilience, family values, food, music, language, all of it. But being Latina is more than just a culture, it's a way of life. I love how we support each other and build unbreakable bonds. Everyone loves us! They just might not admit it but it's true. I am extremely orgullosa to be a Latina. 

Community: We get so much more accomplished when we work together. I have no idea where I would be without my community. I have an amazing group of women that constantly uplift me and support me through everything I do. Find a positive community that will have your back no matter what. For me, it’s my family, my friends, my church community, among many others. If people in your life are not contributing to your growth, remember you do not have to keep them around. We must surround ourselves with people who pull the magic out of us and believe in us especially during the times we don't believe in ourselves.

Success: Success to me means having true joy in your life and to have true joy for me is being unapologetically you. When I was younger I thought success was attained by chasing money, fame, power, education, and the perfect relationship. However, none of those will help you attain success if you do not know who you are, what makes you happy, and what you want out of life. What I want may not be what you want and that is okay. The most important thing to remember while on your path to success is to be yourself and follow your dreams and that will lead you to a successful life.

Your voice: Using my voice is how Bold Ascension was created. Sharing my story on domestic violence was a very important part of my healing journey; however, the most rewarding part was finding that it created a space for other women to use their voice and own it. As women, we should not be ashamed to speak up despite society and culture teaching that women should be seen and not heard. Never be afraid to use your voice, finding your voice is one way of gaining your power. Use it to inspire others, use it to make a difference; whatever you use it for just know that God created one of you. You are the only you that has and will ever exist and know that God will use you if you allow him.

What did I learn in 2018? This year has been such an illuminating year. My word of the year was action and I was determined to put in the work. Doing one thing every day, even if it’s small, have gotten me closer to my goals. I remember when the things I have accomplished this year were simply a journal entry. Seeing them become reality keeps me motivates. It lets me know that anything is attainable; when we put the action behind our passion we create magic. Don’t wait to start, there is no perfect time, start where you are with what you have and what you know, you will look back and be so proud that you started when you did. 

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